Open rebuke is better than secret love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Proverbs 27:5-6
Have you noticed that you click with Certain people, you share a bond or chemistry with them, that is nonexistent with others?
I have learn along the way that friends come and go, but they all have a purpose. Some got a season, others stay for life. But what about when your life partners do not change their mindsets?
We usually assume that family and loved ones will grow at the same pace we do. But the truth is that we have different lives, difficult circumstances and mindsets for life as well. Our mindset is capacitates us for life and consequently eachother.
Some friendships are built on foundations like sharing faith, trust or because they offered mutual edification/growth. But it becomes challenging within the course of time, that you receive revelation or a mental breakthrough but your friends have not. Its like a person who overcame a drug addiction, but their friends continue in the vice- what a challenge!
Who wants fake friends?
I have also observed that we sometimes misplace friendships. For example, we may confuse acquaintances and enemies with friends, to later be deceived and heartbroken or forgotten. The truth is that we chose to believe in others despite of what our instinct was telling us.
We have to evaluate our friendships and pray for discernment in order to know who was sent by God to be a friend for life, who is for some pastime and who is an enemy in disguise.
If you are anything like me you like friends and you find yourself giving people the benefit of your doubt because nobody is perfect. I avoid fakes, but I have a hard time rejecting those who make the effort to befriend me. But if we learn to trust our instinct, we can save ourselves some time, energy and pain.
These friends will do what the proverbs says, they will kiss you as they deceive you. Some people only come to use you for some selfish reason of their own. Reasons range per mindset:
- To deal with their boredom or depression
- To get information from you or recognition
- To plot against you (envy)
This is one of the saddest things about friendships. Only God can direct us in these matters. Then imagine those people come back and claim to have repented. Lord have mercy.
Father God, I thank you for friendships and the millions of people we come across on a daily basis. Pleasant human beings just like us, people with imperfections like us people who have amazing worth and potential. Lord I pray for your love and mercy to love the right people, those assigned to life for us. Spare us from the enemies and the opportunists. I pray for our hearts, for grace to deal with all peoples and not offend anyone. In Jesus name, Amen.