For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.Proverbs 23:7
“A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.” – James, Allen, As a Man Thinketh
As a Man thinks so is he, author James Allen will attest to this truth, we are our heart. Countless others also know the validity of this statement, including the bible.
But if I can assist you in any way, our beliefs and ‘the way we are’ does come from somewhere. Why do we have fear? Where do they come from? Why are we friendly? Why do we suffer hopeless anxiety? depression? Why are some people extremely passive and others have a terrible temperament? It all stems from our thought life.
Matthew 15:18-20 But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you.
For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander. These are what defile you. Eating with unwashed hands will never defile you.”
Love is a choice. Love is commitment.
In order to love, we must search our hearts in quiet time and reach out to God for healing, liberation and transformation. Sometimes loving others is a challenge, because we do not know if we will be truly loved in return or if we will be received. I read somewhere once that love takes courage, and this is the truth.
When we avoid relationships and expressing others, we shy away from the pain our minds want to avoid. We do not really dislike love, or affection: we do not seek to be lonely or to stay away from people, we simply are more afraid of suffering than of the joy we may receive from loving. There are some people, who love unconditionally. These people have reached true love, like many parents for example. If their children are the ugliest or worst behaving children, even abusive, a parent who unconditionally loves their children will not allow these circumstances or character flaws influence the true love they feel for their children. And this love is not easy to attain. And sometimes it is not even enjoyable.
It is important and valuable to mention that God loves us with a unique and personal love!
We all have different ways of receiving and giving love, and God is aware of this. If I buy my mom flowers, she will not be very excited about that. But if I buy her some food, she will be very happy. We are the same way. If God gave me a child right now, I would not be the happiest of people: but if He gave my best friend a child she would be extremely happy.
God knows our hearts, and because he does he knows us in particular and in depth. He knows what ministry we ought to be in, what our calling is, which talents we are hiding, He knows when and why we are being selfish. And we need to be open with God, and be submitted to His will in order to find ourselves and purpose in God. If God gave us all the same things and loved us equally, we would not receive it as much, and we may even undervalue God’s love.
Lord Jesus, you are the creator of all the earth, the things seen and the things unseen. I praise you because I am wonderfully made, and marvelous are your works. My God, I present to you our hearts and our quiet thoughts, may you show us what is in our hearts and what we can do to change these things. I also ask that you replace lies that we have believed for a long time, with your truth in the scriptures. I pray for chains to be broken and strongholds to be destroyed. In Jesus name, Amen.
I suggest you all look into this book and website, it may be very edifying to you and your loved ones:
The Five Love languages by Gary Chapman.