Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Colossians 3:12
Patience is not the ability to wait, its the ability to wait with a good attitude.
I have realized that it’s important to be patient in our relationships, including, with God. I expect all things to happen quickly, and I am willing to wait but once that waiting period should be over, I start getting hasty again.
For example, waiting on God for a husband. I have been single for over 6 years, mostly hidden in God. Until recently where He sent me a friend, but that’s about it- I know He is not my husband; we are apparently in a God ordained training session. I say God ordained, because I dreamt various times where God spoke to me about him and showed him to me, before meeting. I waited patiently for some time, with ups and downs, but my patience has run out and I’m not happy at all, because I know what God has promised me and it ‘s not happening yet. Another example is when I expect people to understand me, to simply ‘get it’, and when they don’t I tend to explain it louder and faster, and eventually I become discouraged and introverted. Then there is also the lack of patience in my reactions, my impulse drives me to self defense, or to hastily responding back to an insult or attitude. I know that this is all negatively impacting my relationships, including my relationship with God. But other than the word of God, I do not really have “it” together in this area.
God doesn’t want to change our personalities, He wants to better our Character.
Did some research because I’m a self-taught psychologist, and confirmed a theory claiming there are four types of personalities. The four personalities are sanguine, choleric, melancholic, and phlegmatic. Nobody can ever be one personality type, just like nobody can be one sun sign in astrology. Most of us have a secondary temperament, like me; I’m a Sanguine- Melancholic, both introverted and extroverted.
Extroverted Personalities: The Choleric and Sanguine, more “out-going,” more sociable.
Introverted Personalities: The Melancholy and Phlegmatic, more shy and “reserved”.
- sanguine: enthusiastic, active and social
- choleric: short-tempered, fast or irritable
- melancholic: analytical, wise and quiet
- phlegmatic: relaxed and peaceful
Maybe it can give you a better perspective of yourself. Have Fun!