“What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.” 1 Corinthians 6:16
The person you marry has to carry your purpose on the earth, because you purpose was here before you were even born.
One of the simple, not spoken of, truths in the Christian church, is that when we receive Christ into our lives our spirit man become one with God’s holy spirit and is washed clean, while the Soul and Body are not saved! Not even renewed! Therefore our spirit is free, but we can still smoke cigarettes or drink, even fornicate because our “soul” and “body” can still be bound. The bible says that once we know the truth, the truth sets us free. What is the Truth? The word of God is The Truth. The bible also says He who the Son sets free, is free indeed- therefore Jesus does a work in us of specific liberation (if we let Him) and then we must apply the word of God to be transformed.
Once friendships and intimate relationships end, we assume that it’s all done. But everything knitted in the spirit and in our soul is not broken when the relationship ends. See yesterday (I’m on a roll here), I wrote about things that give the enemy permission to enter our lives. I mentioned the power of spoken words and internal beliefs, and these also create soul ties. There are different types of soul ties: godly and ungodly. A Godly soul tie is obviously God led, and God built, inclusively God is at the core of the relationship. For example, Jonathan and David in the book of 1 Samuel, were best friends and their souls were knitted together: And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
- relationship where 2 souls become one
- Close emotional attachment
- Vows, commitments and agreements
We know, and can imagine, that a Godly soul tie brings people towards God, His purpose and brings peace and healthy emotions into our lives. But an ungodly soul tie, creates mental paradigms (patterns), and a distinct attachment to the other. The truth about soul ties is that they do not stay within us- they flow out in our lives. David and Jonathan did not have sex to build a soul tie, they simply connected mentally and emotionally, and this is something I’d like to clarify: having sex creates soul ties, but soul ties are not limited to sex. A soul tie is created when there’s a physical act of giving yourself to another person which creates a soul level connection.
Effects of soul ties:
- Your thoughts are always about that person you are connected to, whether good or bad (You feel nostalgic thinking of them, you wonder who they are with, you can’t forgive them) and even if you want to disconnect you can’t help to think
- You adopt the behavior and words of the person you are connected to (Has anyone ever told you that you and your friend look alike, when you have no resemblance whatsoever? )
- You ‘feel’ what mood or experience the person you are connected to is having, even if you are not around them. (Mother and Child soul tie: I knew something had happened I felt it in my gut.)
A little science for the soul: when we have a sexual experience, our brains produce dopamine. This is a chemical that works in gambling, goal achieving, chocolate eating, and heroine addict highs. What dopamine does (whether its a cupcake or some great sex) is to make us addicted, obsessive and simply want it again and again.
The blood of Jesus is the most liberating force in the universe.
Remember God’s holy spirit is now united with our spirit: ‘… he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him’ (1 Cor. 6:17). The spirit God gave us is therefore the vehicle that connects us to God, so that we can communicate (through prayer and meditation). While the soul is our emotions and our will, and our mind: our understanding (decision making center). Our soul is who we are; our personality, not to be confused with our character. And the body is the vehicle for the soul and the spirit to demonstrate or express itself.
We need to come to God as the 3 in 1, and ask God to break soul ties; any soul ties. First we confess with our mouth, turn from the acts that connect them to us (repent), forgive them and ourselves (release) and then ask God to break.
Father, I rebuke every ungodly soul tie that is in my life, be it friend or lover. I ask that you show me any place, where I have made a tie to another person which is not of you and has been holding me back or influencing in any way. I also pray for increased discernment, and I pray you simply break every chain by your blood. In Jesus name, Amen.