So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. Romans 12:1-2 (The Message Bible)
If I’m weak in a certain area, it won’t be for long!
I’m not always in control, but if I know something about myself I know how to keep it under control. I pride myself in the self discipline I have in different areas of my life. It is not easy to deny your flesh, but it’s possible and sometimes necessary. My secret is that I always do what’s necessary. I don’t spend much money unless it’s necessary, I don’t date or entertain love stories because it’s not necessary; God spoke to me about my husband and I believe Him. I go to church because it is necessary I obey God’s word. I forgive people because it is necessary that I maintain a healthy uncontaminated heart. You get the hang of it, right.
- Boundary: line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line. Border, frontier, borderline, partition; dividing line, divide, division, borderline, cutoff point
I like the term ‘ cut off point’. We all have this cut off point, if you know yourself that is. And if you do not, you will eventually learn. I have learned that boundaries are necessary in all types of relationships and situation-ships. We need boundaries when enjoying life, we need boundaries when dealings in church, we need boundaries between workers and bosses, disciples and leaders, pastor and members, best friends, close friends, strangers and lovers.
Boundaries help us stay uncontaminated from the world’s culture and lifestyle. We are not to have fellowship with the world’s darkness, and we are to reject doing anything in the worlds way. Sometimes doing or allowing these things in our life, are not hurtful to us but they open doors for Satan to enter. He does either in our mind, in our hearts, uses media, or our family, sickness or disease to destroy us.
I love boundaries because it keeps me up to date with the value I have for myself. I love myself, and care for my well being therefore most of the time, I don’t just do, I think. We have to be responsible for our lives, whoever does not do this is obviously in childlike way of thinking. It’s absurd to not think of the consequences of our actions. Boundaries are good for protection, even in society. If you break the law, you pay a fine or you go to jail- you crossed the line, the boundary. Boundaries determine what you will accept and reject, what you will do and what you would avoid. For example, in relationships, we need to care for our loved ones but the cut off point is at control and manipulation. We must respect our loved ones desires and needs. Our boundary as Christians is the bible. The blood of Jesus is a boundary against the devil, He cannot cross into us because of God’s cut off point. If a friend is inciting you to do hang out and do ungodly things, you know that your cut off point is at the mention of the ungodly ideas. These are a few things which need boundaries in your life:
- Doctrine at your church
- Our choice of friends
- What we choose to do with our bodies
- Decisions concerning what we accept if it can damage our unison to God
Boundaries help you lead your life, in a more organized and self love type of way. Then there are standards, which depend on how you value yourself but I’ll write about ‘standards’ tomorrow.
Dear Lord, thank you for your patience with us and the people who are around us for their patience with us as well. Even though we do not always understand each other, or you. We don’t know if each other’s private life, nor the relationship each of us have with you so I thank you because I have learned boundaries. I thank you for your presence and their presence too., and for teaching me about boundaries. I thank you for your discernment and wisdom, and I pray you increase these in my life as well as my bredrin. I pray the people reading this blog would also desire to implement boundaries in their own lives, recognizing the responsibility that has been deposited to them as Christians. In Jesus name, I ask that you guide them lord. Amen.