If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. Matthew 6:14
The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
We have to make decisions. Some are easy and not profitable, others that we consider hard, are so beneficial to our life overall. Without realizing it we affect our present and futures, all from things which have occurred in the past. The hard choices in life are the more promising. The more fulfilling. The more satisfying. Because God is watching the choices we make, and so are the people around us. I thank God for showing me the power in letting go. I had so many things I did not consider grudges, but simply offenses, disappointments and disagreements, and these needed to be forgiven as well. We have to choose well for our emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing.
You may say, I do not hold grudges- but you hold someone who hurt, offended or disappointed you guilty of doing so! That my friend, is a grudge. Forgiveness means you do not keep a record of their wrongs. A grudge is keeping that person in a guilty place. So if forgiveness means to not keep score of their wrongs, then those people you consider GUILTY- need to be released, they need to be forgiven. A grudge is not being angry, or being evil to someone else. For instance, other examples of holding a grudge are:
- “You can forgive but you can’t forget.”
- “I’ve tried to forgive them, but they haven’t changed.”
- “I may have forgiven them, but I’ll always hold it against them.”
I teach from experience right, I cannot give you, what I myself do not have. So when I speak about forgiveness, believe me I have been offended in ways you would not imagine. I noticed I had not released people from these things I experiences… Get ready, I know from personal experience that these are hard!:
- when you think of someone who hurt you, how do you feel?
- When you see their photo or name, what’s your first thought or reaction?
- Have you ever prayed or blessed the people who have hurt you? Have you ever given them money or gifts that would assist them in anyway?
- When you think about these people, can you think of the good in them? Can you state a moment when you were thankful for them or grateful for having known them at all?
- Do you ever think of hurting them back?
- Do you ever wish bad on them?
It is easy to put a smile on your face and pretend everything is okay. It is hard to deal with things, or to overcome obstacles, and hurdles.
It’s easy to never love again or to trust again because you are afraid. It’s hard to live a life loving people, and receiving love from people who can hurt you at any given point.
It is so easy to be angry and stay angry. It’s hard to change your mind when you are hurt, angry or sad.
It is so easy to be hurt and to say forget so and so. It’s hard to choose to forgive someone and move on.
It’s easy to fight. It’s hard to be meek; to contain yourself from giving people what they deserve.
It’s easy to defend yourself for the lies, the hate and the lack of appreciation. It’s hard to trust God to take vengeance on those people.
It’s easy to hide your heart in attempt to protect it. It’s hard to take your heart and wear it on your sleeves.
It’s easy to be angry at God for allowing the nonsense and not dealing with people right at the moment. It’s hard to stay quiet when you want to tell people how wrong and ignorant they are.
It’s so easy to hold a grudge in your heart for others. It’s hard to accept a sorry you never got; to accept that some relationships have to end, for reasons outside of your control or understanding.
Lord Jesus, I thank you for the liberation and healing in my own life. I pray for those people who will read this today, and those who are battling with being done wrong. people who have gone through crazy things, even like sexual molestation, homicide or domestic abuse, neglect or abandonment- grievous things Lord where forgiveness is the last thing on their hearts. I pray that you would visit these people Lord, the way you visited me. Give them the grace to release, and to empty their hearts from any and all negative emotions associated with undergoing offense at the hands of others. I also pray for those people who need to forgive themselves too. I pray you give them new strengths each day to conquer their own self image and esteem issues. In Jesus mighty name, Amen.