For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. You formed the way I think and feel. You put me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I know how amazing that was! You could see my bones grow as my body took shape, hidden in my mother’s womb. Psalm 139:13-15
Be your own kind of beautiful.
Could you be feeling bad about your SELF because you are not behaving according to your true values. What are your values?What are your needs? Do your values reflect on your behavior? If you value honesty, are you always 100 percent honest? Or like me, I have ‘respect’ tattooed on my back, but I can be pretty disrespectful. I want to treat everyone with respect, but when I feel disrespected, I tend to avoid the situation altogether (because I know that at the moment they are not worthy of my respect.) This complexity in values and behaviors, causes inner turmoil in me. But I am not the only person who goes through this, people who do not love themselves go through this.
To love yourself unconditionally is to accept yourself as you are. We all disappoint ourselves, every single day. The reality is, that if we do not accept our self, we cannot love our self: if we do not love our self, please recognize nobody will love us better than we love ourselves. Our shortcomings, give way to self development and affirmation or self hatred and denial. It is true that we are imperfect beings, and we are all under construction. We can be displeased with our looks, attitude, failures and mistakes, and reactions like giving in, to bad habits, impulses, or urges. If we are not careful, we will develop an “I am not good enough” mentality, or a ” I am unlovable” paradigm. Over time, these mentalities can become self-hatred, and congruently develop bad habits. You can even get to the point where you do not accept yourself for who you truly are, and only WOULD ‘be happy’ with yourself, when you become who you SHOULD be. If you are always displeased with yourself, your soul will not be able to handle it. Do you ever honor yourself? Do you celebrate yourself?
It is important to treat yourself, as you want to be treated and to speak to yourself with love and care. If you treat yourself bad, people will treat you the same. It’s a law of the universe, like a magnetic attraction. I have realized that we attract what is in us: we magnetized what we feel we deserve. And also that people learn to love us, based on how they see us love ourselves. For example, if I betray myself, how can I expect people not betray me? If I deceive myself, others will too. And if I treat myself bad, with neglect and recklessness, and speak negatively to myself: who, better yet, HOW can I expect others to treat me better? Think about it, if you see yourself as a victim, you will speak to yourself as a victim. Nobody will count on you, because in your core- you believe you are a victim. You will attract victims. But if you think of yourself strong, and bold: you will attract people who are confident and courageous. It’s all about your core beliefs.
We generally love people for who they are, flaws and all. We love others, our parents, our brothers, sisters, cousins, partners, etc. And these people are imperfect, just like we are; but we love them despite of themselves? We should love ourselves for who we are today. When you love someone, sure, there are things you do not like about those people, RIGHT? Or are you always demanding that they are perfect!? Always criticizing or complaining? That may be, because you beat yourself up all day long.
Lord Jesus, thank you for the adventure of knowing myself. I’m pretty awesome, even if I’m far from perfect! I thank you for making me so uniquely, and even from saving me when I was born prematurely at 20 weeks. I didn’t have to be here on earth but you chose it that I was here. Thank you, Lord. I thank you for all of my readers, and how they have been chosen and uniquely created for this world and for this time. I pray for people to love themselves, and treat themselves accordingly. In Jesus name, Amen.