The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out. Proverbs 20:5
The purpose of my life is to be a father to my kids, and a husband to my wife.
Terrence Howard (Actor)
I won’t say it’s okay to feel you have no purpose, because the truth is that we ALL have a purpose. Some people’s purpose is to raise a family, to build communities, to entertain, to teach, to heal, to empower and so much more. Maybe your purpose is to offer encouragement, maybe it is to bring comfort to a broken child, maybe it’s to empower the people who feel forgotten, maybe it’s to fight for someone’s salvation, maybe it’s to speak to a person’s mindset and retrain their perceptions. Your purpose is there, pray and seek God. I promise you will birth it.
The truth is that we were created to live purpose-filled lives. YOU HAVE PURPOSE, despite of:
- your feelings
- your bank account or resume
- your resources or connections or,
- lack of professional preparedness (education, training, etc.)
For the past decade, I admit to have been resisting changes in my life! I’ve been able to manage what I could adapt to, but I have not been able to fully embrace all of the changes. By embrace, I mean be happy- be welcoming- be accepting- to change! As a cautious, practical and methodical person, the familiar seems safe to me. I love stability and security, and although I can be adventurous, I am not a big fan of change especially if I am not in control.
Holding on to the way we are used to doing and seeing things will not make our lives easier (or safer), because we all evolve: we are constantly changing. You are not the same person you were one year ago, and you definitely are not who you were in January of this year! Doing what we have always done, and how we have always done it, has to be one of the most frustrating things ever. It interferes with the enjoyment of our lives, it limits how we interact with new relationships and opportunities, and it limits our potential. If our thought life does not align with where you are going (or want to go), you will lose momentum along the way. I think of negative people, and thoughts as toddlers when taking their first steps: they will slow you down along the way.
Change usually gives us some sort of nervousness or adrenaline rush, because we all experience fear: of the unknown, of failure or of success. Our minds are designed to protect us from harm, even when it doesn’t make sense. The truth is that even when something is beneficial, it involves some level of suffering and risk taking. Becoming pregnant and even getting married both involve moving in the direction of the unknown. Meeting new people involves taking a chance on sharing with others who may reject or betray you. Entering a new job, or new school requires taking a risk into the unknown. And moving to another city or another country involves taking a calculated opportunity that may or may not work.
Making necessary changes in our lives involves grief. I say this because the familiar is attached to our inner being, like nerve is attached to a bone. We may not think so, but when trying to detach the habits and the paradigms from our every day life, we realize that it is pretty painful and uncomfortable. But in order to expand we must be willing to let go of what has been, because then we can enter a place of newness called acceptance.
My God, Lord Most High, Elohim, you say in your word that your ways are higher than our ways and Your thoughts higher than our thoughts. And we believe that you are for us and you know what is best for us. We are all searching for purpose and significance, but without knowing so we have blocked ourselves from walking into your appointed place for us. May we no longer be distracted by circumstances, or blind-sighted by our own capricious ways or be naïve to fall from grace into gossip, slander or bitterness. May we be prepared for purpose when it is revealed to us, and may we also embrace the price that needs to be paid: may we be willing to sacrifice and put in the work required to excel in the appointed place for your glory and honor. Whether it is a mother, a father, an architect, a doctor, a counselor or an intercessor: whatever our purpose is Lord, may we be sensible enough to hear it calling and feel its pull. And finally, I pray that we come to a place in our lives where we accept what you reveal to be our work in this world: even if it may not be what we wanted or imagined. May we not turn back and reject your will, teach us your ways Lord. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.