I want you to be free from worry. A man who is not married is busy with the Lord’s work. He is trying to please the Lord. But a man who is married is busy with things of the world. He is trying to please his wife. He must think about two things—pleasing his wife and pleasing the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:32–34
If you are not happy single, you will not be happy married. Happiness comes from within.
The apostle Paul gave us godly counsel concerning singleness and marriage: he said it’s better to be single, because the single person can give God all of their love and attention (devotion). He went on to explain that a married person has divided attention between serving God and taking care of their spouse and family. I’m inclined to focus on God, my goals and dreams, and being married would add a responsibility to my life.
Married people constantly juggle with keeping the marriage, or children, from taking the place of their devotion (time and attention) to Christ. Being single in the Lord also requires us to prioritize and juggle our time and focus. Every human being on the face of this earth has to manage personal distractions like, relationships, school/careers, personal issues, and other responsibilities. The goal is to keep our focus on God.
To have divided attention is not bad. But, if as a single person you struggle with keeping your focus and dedication on God, then your foundation is shaky. When our foundation is weak, divided attention becomes broken focus. If this is you, then take Paul’s advice: remain single and devote yourself to the Lord. Married couples have additional responsibilities to each other, their home, their children, their ministry and primarily God. And while the single person also has responsibilities, their main focus is God. It is good to be single, and it is good to be married: my intent is to help you think about your own, uniquely designed, life.
On a practical level, I thought about God’s individual callings. Let’s say the Lord has called you to the nations. Your ministry may require that you are out of the home for long periods of time, away from your spouse and children. This may harm your marriage and your children’s upbringing! And you will want to consider holding off on marriage. You may say God won’t do that to me… yes, He May. The Lord has plan, and you must pray to perceive and discern it.
Seek God for His perfect will for your life, go after what God intends for you. I will complete my marriage talk tomorrow!
My God today I present to you all your children, who long to be married. Lord Jesus, I know the feelings associated with waiting for a convenient and godly companion: and I ask you to strengthen each person. Give them a wise way of looking at marriage, free them from desperation and obsession. And give them conviction to focus on you and the work you are doing in them Lord. I pray for wisdom so that each person is able to wait with joy, and hope and run after their calling. In Jesus name, Amen.