The happiest, healthiest, and long lasting relationships happen when each partner is secure and whole within themselves.
The Bible registers that God said it was not good for man to be alone. And to resolve the issue He created a partner for Adam, named Eve. The Lord gave them ministry, when He told them to help each other, fill the earth and have dominion over it. The big deal is not that God didn’t want man to be alone, the big deal is that: the Lord compares marriage to His own relationship with us.
God’s design and hope for marriage is to tell the world about love and service. And therefore our ministry in marriage is to be like our Lord Jesus, who gave His life for us. We ought to be willing to lay down our pride, our money, and/or our body for the success of our ministry called marriage. It would be a wise thing to equip ourselves for it, at least in character and practicality.
Yesterday, I noted that singleness has its pros over marriage. Being single gives us flexibility and freedom to serve God and to work on ourselves, before joining with someone else for life. Marriage may be in God’s plan for you, even if you are single right now but take advantage of your single season.
Marriage provides companionship, and a way to release sexual desires… but it does not heal or deliver from bad habits, spiritual bondage or psychological issues. In our time of singleness, we should work on changing the practice of things like lust, promiscuity, codependency, depression or clinginess, etc: which would be destructive in marriage. Set aside all pride and arrogance and develop humility and reverence for God.
Be grateful and advantageous of your singleness: it’s a “grace for undivided attention to God”. Be encouraged!
Most High God, and eternal father today I pray you continue to build in us the characteristics that will support us in marriage. I ask you for humility and wisdom, to receive your instruction as we prepare for this future marriage ministry. Prepare, equip, and train us before we are married Lord. In Jesus name, Amen.