Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 1 Corinthians 7:7
The happiest, healthiest, and long lasting relationships happen when each partner is secure and whole within themselves.
Yesterday, I noted that singleness is GOOD. Being single gives us flexibility and freedom to serve God and to work on ourselves, before joining with someone else for life. Marriage may be in God’s plan for you, but take advantage of your single season too.
The Bible registers that God said it was not good for man to be alone. And to resolve the issue He created a partner for Adam, named Eve. The Lord gave them ministry, when He told them to help each other, fill the earth and have dominion over it. The big deal is not that God didn’t want man to be alone, the Lord instituted marriage as a reflection of His own relationship with us. Our ministry in marriage is to love like Jesus, who gave His life for us. It would be a wise thing to equip ourselves for the ministry called marriage, at least in character and practicality.
If God designed marriage to tell the world about His love and service towards us. Then we must PURPOSELY lay down our pride, our money, and/or our body just like Jesus did. Marriage provides companionship, and a way to release sexual desires… but it does not heal or deliver us from bad habits, spiritual bondage or psychological issues. In our time of singleness, we should work on changing habits of lust, promiscuity, codependency, depression or clinginess, etc.: which would be destructive in marriage.
Be grateful and advantageous of your singleness: it’s a “grace for undivided attention to God”. Be encouraged!
Most High God, and eternal father today I pray you continue to build in us the characteristics that will support us in marriage. I ask you for humility and wisdom, to receive your instruction as we prepare for this future marriage ministry. Prepare, equip, and train us before we are married Lord. In Jesus name, Amen.